By: Kendall Williams
We all remember trying on our mother’s clothing and walking around in her high heels when we were young. As we grew up, our mother’s would take us back to school shopping and encourage us as we tried on outfit after outfit. And while we used to think our mom’s didn’t have any style what so ever, as we got older, we started to see that mother really does know best. The relationship I have with my mom is one of friendship. However it hasn’t always been that way. I’m sure many women have had similar ups and downs in their relationship with their mom. When I was younger, my mom was the one who took care of me when I was sick, who cooked my dinner, and bought my clothes. As I got older, I started to feel more insecure in my body and style. I felt like I wasn’t cool. I was awkward and dorky, and the clothing I wore became a much bigger deal to me. I didn’t want to wear something that my peers would deem “nerdy” or “ugly.” This was also around the time that I started to think that I knew more than my parents, and that they didn’t understand me. Being a teenager, you tend to go through a lot of changes, and we all deal with those changes in different ways. My style, personality, and confidence were all influenced by the way people thought about me. This affected the personal relationship I had with my mother in a negative way. To be completely honest, teenage me was a brat. I did not appreciate my parents and the things they did for me. I thought I knew everything, and any advice they gave me was lame. I’m sure most of us can relate. Teenage years are not fun for most people. Luckily, I grew up and out of that phase. I realized how smart my parents are, especially my mom. As a woman, I can relate to the things she has gone through and the lessons she has learned. The older I’ve gotten, the more my mom has become my best friend. She’s the first one I call when a boy breaks my heart or when I don’t know what to wear and just about every situation in between the two.
No matter how old you and your mom are I feel like the one thing that brings us all together is shopping. When you are shopping with your mom, you know she is always going to be honest with you. And even if your styles are different, you know that you can trust her opinion. Mom’s always know what looks good on you. I feel like my mom’s style really influenced the way I dress, especially as a young adult. She always knows what looks the most flattering on her body, and puts things together in a very classic and chic way. And the older I’ve gotten, the more my style has started to influence her. I’ve gotten her to branch out of her comfort zone and try something new many times, and she has done the same for me. We don’t always love the things we pick out for each other, but sometimes we need an outsider’s perspective.
As college students, we typically live away from our parents, and I think that provides opportunities for you to grow closer to your mom because you are having to make a more conscious effort to spend time together. Being away from her makes you appreciate and value all of those things she’s done for you, and it gives you a chance to miss each other. And I don’t know about you but whenever I go home to visit, my mom and I are almost always shopping. Even if we don’t buy anything, there is just something about it that really brings us together. Although we may not always see eye to eye, when we shop we are able to come together, feel good about ourselves, and have honest and open conversations. And that’s what really matters.